At St Paul’s we try to support those who are approaching the end of their own life, caring for someone who is dying or grieving for a loved one who has died. We cannot take away the pain of difficult days, but we try to make sure you don’t face them alone. Some of the ways we try to help are:
Prayer
We have prayer lists for long-term and for emergency prayer needs. We are always willing to pray for people who are unwell or those who are bereaved. In particular we can offer prayers at the time of death (sometimes known as “last rites”), praying for God’s forgiveness and love to enfold the person who is coming to the end of their life. This is not something that is possible or necessary for every situation, but some people find it brings them comfort and peace. To ask us to pray for an emergency or to pray with someone who is dying, please call or email the vicar directly.
Funerals
It is a privilege to take a funeral, to celebrate someone’s life and entrust them to God’s care. We are happy to talk to people who would like to plan their own funeral, and to support families in creating the right service for their loved one.
Church funerals can be as individual as the person we are remembering. They can be simple and quiet with just a few people there or full of music and readings and tributes and photos and more. While, as it is a Christian service, the funeral will include some traditional readings and prayers and commend the person to God’s loving care, our clergy are aware that there may be friends and family of all faiths and none and will be sensitive and kind.
You don’t have to be a regular church-goer or be particularly religious to have a church funeral. If it is something you would like to think about, we are always willing to have a conversation.
One advantage to a church funeral is that we are there for you afterwards too. The journey of grief doesn’t end on the day of the funeral – often it is only just starting. Your local church will be there whenever you need it in the weeks, months or even years that follow.
Pastoral Care and Kind Company
Our pastoral care team look after our prayer lists, send out thoughtful cards and can even phone or visit people in need of some company and support. If you or someone you know might benefit from their quiet kindness, please let us know.
Some people find that getting out and being with other people helps when they are grieving. We have a number of different church-run groups where newcomers are welcome and can make friends. You will find more information on this website.
Church Services
At a time of sadness, many find a warm, loving Church community to be a great strength in recovering from the death of a loved one. In our congregation there are many who are bereaved, quietly supporting and helping one another. You are always welcome to join us. Don’t worry if you get emotional or cannot stay for the whole service. You are welcome as you are.
At All Souls (early November) and at Christmas, we also have special services for those who are bereaved. They are a chance to remember loved ones, light a candle and spend a little quiet time with God. We advertise them on the church noticeboard and social media, but if you would like to know more, let us know.
St Paul's Church and Parish Centre, Stockingford 